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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT – LIMITING BELIEFS

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What are my limiting beliefs and how do I overcome them?

All your beliefs colour the view you have of the world. A limiting belief holds you back in life.

Example of a limiting belief: “I am unworthy of being loved.”

This belief may have developed gradually from childhood into adulthood through experiences like being 1) laughed at (for the clothes you wore or being seen as ‘different’) or 2) cheated on (by a partner who said that s/he ‘loved’ you).

This belief will affect you and the actions you take and do not take in life. You may consciously or unconsciously reject love when it comes your way or you may allow ‘love’ in but expect the person who says that they love you to leave you because you’re a bit different…or be unfaithful…You do not love yourself.

When you find yourself being treated badly at work (“I would be treated badly since I’m unworthy of being treated well”), not being able to retain a job (“why wouldn’t they ask me to leave, after all, I am unworthy”) and not taking care of your appearance (“why should I bother; I don’t care and no one will look at me anyway”), you may start to wonder why things are going badly in life not realising that these incidences stem from your limiting belief that “I am unworthy of being loved”. In other words, this one limiting belief is leaking out into many different areas and limiting your positive progress in life.

SHORT EXERCISE: HOW TO IDENTIFY AND OVERCOME LIMITING BELIEFS
1) Identify something positive that you want; ask yourself “do I genuinely and truthfully believe that I can get this?”

2) Immediately be aware of what you are thinking and feeling (a limiting belief is attached to any doubt/worry/fear you experience when you answer the question).

3) Write down your doubts/worries/fears (these are limiting you as they bring about uncertainty in relation to you getting what you want).

4) Methods used in relation to resolving limiting beliefs depend on how ingrained the limiting beliefs are. This is an area I focus on in Personal Development Coaching where the overall focus is on ‘self’, including evaluating and resolving limiting beliefs, values and behaviours.

5) You can also ‘Coach’ yourself. This is an option if you’re already self-aware. Your goal is to challenge your limiting beliefs as well as release and/or replace negative thoughts and emotional attachments to limiting beliefs.

Your outlook in life will become brighter when you have released limiting beliefs.

Be well, Daniella
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